Song of Solomon 1:1
“The song of songs, which is Solomon’s.”
Half of the battle to having a successful marriage is fought in your head. Many marriages are destroyed because of a person’s inattention to their spouse. If you are going to make your marriage successful, you are going to have to make sure that you give time to your marriage in your head.
When Solomon talks about this song that he wrote about his wife, he says that it is “the song of songs.” In other words, his favorite song to sing was the song about his wife. His wife was his world. Sadly, as everyone knows, he lost this passion that he had towards his wife as seen by the several women he ended up marrying. There are three things you can glean from this song that will help your marriage.
First, whatever you do, be sure to make your spouse your best friend. Solomon didn’t say that this song was one of the best; he said that it was the “song of songs.” This song was his favorite. You will never have a successful marriage if your spouse is not your best friend. You are on your way to marital problems if you enjoy spending time with someone else more than your spouse. One mistake many make after marriage is that they still want to run with the guys or the girls. Friend, your spouse needs to be the one with whom you should desire to spend time. I’ll be honest with you, I’m not looking for a night out with the guys, I would rather have a night out with my wife. It is almost as if people have the mentality that they are in bondage to their spouse, so they need time away with their friends. The one you should desire to spend the most time with should be your spouse. Making your spouse your best friend is what enables this to happen.
Second, spend time thinking about your spouse. I’m not a songwriter, but I have written several books. I know it takes time to think if you are going to write. Likewise, it is going to take time thinking about your spouse if you are going to have a successful marriage. Be sure to keep your thoughts positive about your spouse. Think about what you can do to make your marriage stronger. A marriage that doesn’t have time invested in thought is a marriage that has lost its passion and tenderness. Don’t get so busy that you don’t take time to think about your spouse and what you can do to better show your love to them.
Third, continue making your love story the best love story. Solomon was making his love story better when he wrote this song. Time is one of the most important ingredients to having a successful marriage. One of the common regrets I hear from those who’ve lost their marriage is that they wish they had given more time to their spouse. Everyone lives a busy life, but you better not get so busy that you don’t have time to spend with your spouse. Don’t get so busy with the ministry, career or business that you never have time for your spouse. The only way you are going to make your love story better is by spending time with them.
Every marriage is a work in progress. The three things mentioned in this devotional are going to have to be a regular part of your marriage if you want to make your marriage your favorite song. Don’t let your marriage become an old song. Work on it and let the song of your marriage get better with time.