James 1:8
“A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”
Do you remember when you were a child going to the ice cream shop and having to decide which flavor of ice cream to get? It seemed to be such a difficult decision. In front of you were over fifty flavors of ice cream, and they all looked good. Finally, your parents would say to you, “Hurry up and make up your mind.” Making the final choice was hard because you wanted more than one flavor, but you seemed to have difficulty surrendering to the fact that the flavor you chose was the best flavor.
Life is very much the same way. There comes a time in everyone’s life when you have to make up your mind. God says, “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.” Double mindedness will create instability in every area of your life. When you don’t make up your mind, your instability will be felt by everyone around you. There comes a time when you just need to make up your mind as to what you are going to do. Wavering between two decisions affects your marriage, home, personal and spiritual life. The question then comes, “How do we come to the point to make up our mind?”
First, you need to ask God for His wisdom. James 1:5 says, “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” You will never solve the instability in your life without getting the wisdom of God. God’s wisdom will give you the confidence that you made the right decision. One of the reasons we never have the wisdom to make the right decisions is because we don’t ask God for His wisdom. God promised that He would give you His wisdom if you simply ask Him. Stop wavering and start asking.
Second, go to the source where you find God’s wisdom. That source is the Word of God. One of the reasons you need to study the Word of God daily is so that you can find God’s wisdom in those times of indecision. Friend, you can ask God for wisdom, but He oftentimes gives His wisdom when you read His Word. You will never find the wisdom of God if you don’t spend time reading the very words of wisdom that God gave us in His Word. Stop running to all the Christian counsellors, instead spend time in the Word of God searching for the wisdom that God has to give to you.
Third, have faith in God that He will protect you from making the wrong decision. If your heart is tender towards the LORD and you have spent time in prayer and His Word searching for His mind, you have to trust God that He will help you make the right decision. If you have truly set your feelings aside and honestly tried to find the mind of Christ, by faith you need to follow what God’s Word teaches.
Fourth, make a decision! Stop vacillating between two decisions and make up your mind. Your double mindedness is creating instability all around you. You will find that once you make a decision, everyone else around you will begin to calm down because now they have clarity as to what they are going to do. It certainly isn’t easy making a decision, but when you do the instability in your life will stop. It’s time to stop wavering with your decisions and by faith trust God to help you to make them. Making decisions isn’t easy, but it will give you and those around you the stability in life you need.